EMDR FORUM ARCHIVE, 2000
EMDR & Dissociation & Parts
· 07/18/01 at 10:02 PM ET
I have a question and will try to make it short. Although I must provide some history for the question to make sense. I am a client, dx with dissociation. Have been in therapy for several years and most of it has been EMDR, or at least to my understanding (as I'm not always there). Again, to my understanding, therapist call me the "host" so as the host, I have seen, felt, heard, lived many things over the past years and still have struggles understanding, accepting, believing, what have you. As the host, I, personally, have not undergone much EMDR, although I know those inside have. I believe that 80 perhaps 85% of those inside have accomplished what they have needed to accomplish and are more or less content. I am becoming impatient. I want results, I want to be OK, I want it all, and I want it now, and I guess I'm asking, can I be "treated" can I accept, understand, what have you, all that has been laid in front of me, without all inside necessarily, having done all they perhaps need to do? My point is, is that the majority within seem stable, seem OK with their past, etc., while I'm still having difficulty. My question and perhaps major concern is that some haven't "looked through the eyes" because I have stopped them. I seem to think we can do whatever we need to, without them actually resolving what it is they need to resolve. So many others have done so much, I want to believe that that is sufficient. I guess I'm just ready to get this all overwith. I don't see what more they can truly offer, but seem to feel that I won't progress until they have had their opportunity. Although, I'm tired and think, perhaps we can. I wonder if one can come to a conclusion, a sense of well being, without all the parts necessarily coming to an "OK" sense of being? If the "host" believes that she has enough information of the past, is it necessary that "all" within process "all" hurts, betrayals, abandonment issues? I understand you can't give consultation, this is ultimate qustion I suppose. Do all within have to be in a "stable" processed state, for the "host" to successfully proceed? Any thoughts are appreciated.
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