EMDR FORUM ARCHIVE, 2000
Re:choosing cognitions
wondering · 07/28/03 at 9:54 ET
Thanks for your reply. I know your remarks aren't directed specifically at me, but they made sense and helped. Confirmed what I was thinking... I don't think I can successfully "do" therapy right now, but I think there is a lot I can do, on my own, to counter the sort of beliefs and assumptions you mention. For instance, the belief that arises after "being good is bad" is "I don't have needs". And the part that believes that refuses to "do" therapy (after all, there's no "need"). After some internal dialogue, I've come up with a few ways to, perhaps, acclimate myself to the concept of having needs and to separate having needs from the paradigm of abuse. ("If I admit having needs, they will be used to manipulate me into being abused further.") I am trying to focus on "needs" associated with hunger, cold and other physical discomfort... and educate myself as to "needs" being normal, mundane and not necessarily paired with abuse. If that makes sense...? Thank you for a laugh I sorely needed... no, twenty five years ago no one said "don't print out internet posts". Loopholes amidst the internal binds are rare... thanks for pointing one out. :-)
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