Re:unwanted insight?

Maybe the best insights are discovered as compared to received. Nevertheless, regarding your experience:

Often when a person feels "outrage" there is an experience of "guilt."

Though PERPETRATORS usually feel "blameless" and "outrage" toward their victims. (Psychopathic)

VICTIMS of abuse are usually placed in a bind:

1. They are conditioned to passively receive abuse and deceived into believing they deserve it.

2. Unfortunately, when victims feel righteous rage about their abuse they begin to feel like a perpetrator. Some abusers use this to convert victims into perpetrators.

Resolution of the bind may take the form of understanding that the victim is "blameless" and may feel "outrage" -- though their concern and struggle with guilt about the anger (outrage) distinguishes them from the perpetrators that are without any concern.

Often most images of "outrage" are of the perpetrators and most victims do not want to be like them. There are healthy and appropriate ways to feel "outrage" and manage it differently than perpetrators and they can be learned.

Hopefully, people develop tolerance for their own missteps and allow themselves time to learn new behaviors.

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Re:unwanted insight?, by client, 01/21/03 Re:unwanted insight?, by Sandra Paulsen Inobe, PhD, 01/21/03 Re:unwanted insight?, by karen, 01/22/03 Re:unwanted insight?, by client, 01/22/03 Re:unwanted insight?, by client, 01/22/03

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