Re:unwanted insight?

Dr. Inobe,

I did consider that "conflicted" was responding to me in a generic way... even when commenting on specific cases an online dialogue tends to be hopelessly generic... how can we possibly know who or what is being responded to, or what motivates the responder (or the orgininal poster, eg, me)?

My difficulty was that the poster made some general claims.

1) This is how certain types of people feel. ("PERPETRATORS usually feel "blameless" and "outrage" toward their victims. (Psychopathic)" I think it has long been shown that most abusers of children, wives, etc are NOT psychopaths. The application of this label and defining it as "usual" ignores the complex causes and manifestations of violence in our world.

2) The poster's view of victims seemed quite static... with a set of expectations of how victims should feel and behave. Any victim of trauma who felt outrage and not guilt ("their concern and struggle with guilt about the anger (outrage) distinguishes them from the perpetrators that are without any concern") might be tempted to take away the idea that they were not a "real" victim. Or worse, that they were, in some undefined way, a PERP.

The post was immensely helpful to me overall, as I think I indicated... the black and white thinking, whether personally directed at me or simply generic and theoretical, I found offsetting...

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