Re:unwanted insight?

I find your post confusing. You seem to say that healthy outrage should be paired with guilt, that outrage without guilt indicates a perpetrating mindset... You speak of receiving vs discovering "insight" and I see nothing in my post which indicates that these insights were "received", that they were not spontaneous (they were), for instance that they might have been positive cognitions targeted with EMDR (they were not).

Additionally, you speak of self tolerance and missteps... I am unsure of what I said that indicates any significant missteps, perceived or actual, in my history. In fact, the whole tone of your post seems to assume that I am, in some way, a "perpetrator". I find this a baffling and slightly disturbing perspective.

However, to return to my previous point... What I do gain from your post is that an introject (using an ego state model) would feel both blameless and outraged. This is an interesting idea to me... it might indicate that the conflict I am feeling is from two opposing types of "outrage and blamelessness" which are uncomfortably jostling one another -- an introject, a "mask", modeled after a perpetrator and a "true" felt sense of blamelessness and outrage, which I believe to be a healthy, appropriate feeling for any victim.

I am now wondering how the "mask" of outrage and blamelessness might be reconciled with the same feelings, profoundly experienced, not "put on"... I think it might be the very coherence of belief (outrage and blamelessness) which so discomfits me, since I am used to internally conflicting beliefs.

For the record, and to return to EMDR... I don't believe that, even with years of conventional talk therapy, I would arrive at a staggering conclusion like "I am blameless and outraged at the abuse"... this is the sort of deep seated shift in perspective that I have only experienced with EMDR...

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Re:unwanted insight?, by Sandra Paulsen Inobe, PhD, 01/21/03 Re:unwanted insight?, by karen, 01/22/03 Re:unwanted insight?, by client, 01/22/03 Re:unwanted insight?, by client, 01/22/03

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