Not healing hurts....

You said, "Not healing hurts, but healing invalidates the abuse itself."

I have known clients who were resisting releasing their pain lest it invalidate the abuse. I have folks create a memorial garden in the mind's eye, that can be visited whenever they wish, to commemorate that which has been lost. Then they are usually free to release the toxic pain, hate, shame, etc that was injected into them at the time of the trauma. Keeping the abuse large keeps the abuser large, which is giving away too much power.

Healing is the last laugh, the final triumph. The abuser becomes trivial, the healed transcends.

Replies:

Re:Not healing hurts...., by client, 12/03/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by Sandra Paulsen Inobe, PhD, 12/03/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by Anonymous, 12/07/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by Cahill, 12/07/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by Sandra Paulsen Inobe, PhD, 12/08/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by A client, 12/08/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by Ricky Greenwald, 12/08/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by Cahill, 12/09/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by ls, 12/09/02 Re:Not healing hurts...., by Cahill, 12/09/02

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