EMDR FORUM ARCHIVE, 2000
parts in control and emdr
emdr client · 11/20/02 at 4:57 PM ET
Hi, I'm DDNOS and have been doing emdr prepatory work for a few months now. In that time, a severe depression has lifed and the balance of power between parts inside of me has shifted considerably. I feel centered and happier. However, stability has always before been associated with a denial of past trauma. I am only happy if nothing happened, otherwise I am terribly unhappy, chaotic, unable to function, etc... my therapist has several times thrown around the phrase "positive affect intolerance". My question is this: do people progress in therapy when they are NOT in chaos and depressed? Is it possible to go into sessions, process introjects (which is what my therapist wants to do, and I basically agree with her) and not be completely destabilized? This probably sounds sophmoric, but I just don't know anyone who has had that experience in therapy. I have two small children, I NEED to be functioning, and functioning well, even if it means being in denial of the past. I am thrilled to be back in happy mode, it's been an excruciating 14 mos, and no fun for my family either. Is this something I can theoretically accomplish in therapy -- a slow integration of happy self with traumatized selves, while I am functioning? Sorry to sound so incredulous, maybe I just never had a decent therapist before... maybe this is how it is supposed to work? I know you can't answer specifically, but any general comments you can offer would be greatly appreciated. I am hoping that being "happy" is the POINT of "containment and stabilization"!
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