You are rather callous, although you are probably doing the best you can, it is unfortunate that your first line of reply was a rejection stating the fact that this was a dissicusion area, what kind of heed would be taken to the following things you wrote, rather than just saying to look for help in the obvious area. This is really an attack on you to tell you to "WAKE UP" and get some kind of education on Psychology. Re-read the reply you wrote and if you are the least bit human take a different persective. Offer help to those who ask instead of taking a inferior and rather low level approach, even if you don't know say so. Good Luck I am very sure that you need it John, you have reveal yourself. In future be noble and forget yourself (ego included)for a second and be a decent human being.