EMDR FORUM ARCHIVE, 2000
Sudden termination of EMDR-HELP!
CJHiggins@charter.net · 07/11/00 at 6:02 PM ET
Hi! I am new to this site and new to EMDR. I am a woman who used to function pretty well as an attorney in New York before being hit by a depression that has persisted for five years now. I recently underwent EMDR in the hopes it would help with this depression. I adored my therapist of 7 months("Candy") and trusted her completely during the 2 EMDR sessions I had. Despite my skeptisism regarding EMDR, something definately happened that I can't explain. I left the first session feeling raw, shaky, afraid and vulnerable, much as I had as a child at times. I had to wait awhile before I was able to drive even a short distance home. I continued to feel strange over the weekend, now feeling overwhelming feelings of sadness and anger, feelings I had never felt to that degree. Candy told me I was having an abreaction, something I had never heard of. She saw me the following week to do what she called an installation. The following week I had a session scheduled with a child psychologist ("Wendy") at the same clinic for an ADD assessment for my young son. It was our 2nd session. Without boring you with the details, I can say that the meeting went from bad to worse, and I again became overwhelmed with feelings of sadness and anger. Unable to stop crying, and feeling helpless and afraid, I left the clinic, but not before leaving a note canceling my appointment with MY therapist, Candy, which was scheduled for the following day, and stating that I was never coming back. The following day both therapists, Candy and Wendy, signed and mailed out a letter which stated that both my therapy and my son's had terminated and my file had been closed. If my contact with this clinic had been limited to my 2 sessions with Wendy, the child psychologist, perhaps the dry, impersonal letter they sent out might have been appropriate. But given my 7 month relationship with Candy, built on what I believed to be feelings of trust and mutual caring, it was very hurtful. In the rush to send out my termination letter that next day, Candy never even called to say goodbye. As you might guess, I have felt deeply sad and bewildered about everything. And I feel like I am in quite a dilemna. I feel like the doctor walked away in the operating room, so to speak, and left me in the middle of surgery. Candy had told me that it was necessary to feel my sadness and anger, and that I could bring those feelings there. My doctor doesn't really know much about EMDR. I met with another therapist in my area who does EMDR and she said she would have to take it very slowly if she worked with me. But, I need HELP now! Does anyone have any suggestions? I would appreciate any comments any of you would like to share. Thanks,JJ
My husband called to see if my son, who is only 7, could at least say good-bye to Wendy whom he was expecting to see again, but he was told no. My doctor called to discuss the situation with Candy, but Candy refused to talk to her. Candy never even called me to hear my side of the story regarding what happened at the session with Wendy, never asked how I felt or if I was ok, never even said good-bye.
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