Re: Self-esteem and self-efficacy issues

Given how you feel right now in your marriage, I'd suggest in addition to what I said to you previously, that you also consider getting some professional support. EMDR therapists can be like executive coaches and use EMDR to help you get through some rough spots. You may need some help allowing your wife to go through her healing in a way that best suits her. Issues regarding low self-esteem can be very hard to talk about to a loved one. There are many reasons for that including not wanting to disturbed the loved one, or simply not being able to articulate it well, or not having it resolved enough to approach it without the clinical support. You are a living example of how depression and withdrawal can effect the spouse. You can feel abandoned, confused, angry, frustrated, frightened--just about any and every emotion under the sun. Can you tell your wife how you feel and ask her if she could consult with her therapist about how you should deal with it. Maybe seeing her therapist together for a session is the answer. Maybe getting your own will be the right way to go.

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Re: Self-esteem and self-efficacy issues, by Perez, 12/20/99 Re: Self-esteem and self-efficacy issues, by Shapiro, 12/20/99

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