Is it the Past or Present? First Time on EMDR. Marital Issues.

Dear EMDR Forum:

Today is the first time I've ever heard of EMDR from my counselor. It sounds quite different! It was only my third session with my counselor and she seems to be recommending it.

Currently I am struggling with issues of domestic violence (mostly emotional-verbal abuse, some physical) from my husband. Also he has sexual addiction, from which I have codependency issues to deal with. I grew up from a domestic violent home; made a break from my parents emotionally when I became a Christian ten years ago in college. I thought I had dealt with it enough already for around ten years or so in a work-in-progress way with God's help, until my husband started hurting me these past few years. Now it seems I have to deal with my past and current hurts all together. My husband re-wounds me in old and new places. Regardless of what kind of childhood I had, the things my husband hurts me deeply to the core of my soul. It would hurt any man or woman in my position no matter how pristine or "messed-up" their childhood was.

How do I assess whether I need deeper therapy for my past childhood? Or from my husband? When is EMDR needed for certain? What other resources are on the Web on the basics of EMDR?

I have developed some working boundaries with my parents who are elderly now, even though it's still difficult. I feel alot of my current low self-worth issues, depression, some but insignificant panic attacks and deep emotional pain seems to be directly affected by my marital issues. I'm still working on the marriage and have not decided to leave thus far. My husband is in a domestic violence treatment program and has Christian accountability for his sexual addiction but not in therapy currently. He is still abusive at times; it's hard to gauge his progress at this point and what I should do.

I'd appreciate any of your input if you have any. Thanks! Hope you're all doing good. Take care.

Alexandria

Replies:

Re: Is it the Past or Present? First Time on EMDR. Marital Issues., by Sandra Paulsen, Ph.D., 3/23/00 Dear Dr. Paulsen:, by Alexandria, 3/24/00 Re: Dear Dr. Paulsen:, by Sandra Paulsen, Ph.D., 3/24/00 Re: Dear Dr. Paulsen:, by , 4/5/00 Re: Dear Dr. Paulsen:, by Linda Richards, 3/29/00 Thanks for your inputs, Dr. Paulsen & Linda., by Alexandria, 3/30/00

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