Re: Counseling Children with Behavior Disorder

If she is selectively sweet (as in to certain people) that would indicate that she is capable of controlling her behavior. I suggest you look up John Rosemond's website (www.rosemond.com), get his books, and change your attitude about parenting. A typical tendency is for the parent to feel a "need to be loved" by their children, and children are quick to recognize this need as a leverage of power which they won't hesitate to use in their favor. Meanwhile, she doesn't have to do a thing while all the adults in the picture (you, the professionals,teachers, etc.)run around in circles trying to figure out what the "problem" is.

It would be nice if it were a matter of a diagnosis and medication to solve the problem. Trouble is, and it seems you have found this out, a diagnosis and medication are often only a diversion. The real problem here is that the child in question has never been given a reason to cooperate, i.e., behave civilly, do her homework, unless she has some ulterior motive. She also seems to view authority as optional, as in, if she feels like complying. Rosemond has an extensive library of articles and several books that you may find helpful. Of course, no one professional is the be-all and end-all of any problem, but he supports putting parents in the driver's seat where they belong and may bolster your courage to show your daughter, once and for all, who is the authority.

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