Hi Eli,
I agree that Jews like some other minorities confuse shame with guilt. I think that just confirmimg that a feeling is a feeling of shame is 50% of the recovery process.Also,familiarity with the Shame Compass helps a lot."Attack self"and Attack other"mechanisms are very common and I have witnessed them on my own flesh in Israel.Finally,I am a great believer in Serotonin medications,They are benign,safe and exceptionally effective to change the emotional baseline of a "shame based person"
Chazak Veematz!! Ike