Humor...Margaret a *Lightweight*, Jim Washes Away *Sympathy*; What's Happening to Rich?

• Responses to First Learning about Affect Theory by Jim Duffy a.k.a. J.C.D., 2/28/97
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    • Narcissism, Shame, and the Taboo on Neediness Could Be Understood When the Mental Health Profession Understands Sympathy by Jim Duffy, 3/20/97
      
      

Margaret, you have got to be the heaviest lightweight I've ever seen. Now who is suMPTHhin' else? Your reference to being aware of shame and saying what you feel anyway, is what I call "being skillful with shame." This is heavyweight stuff.

Jim, I cracked up at the image of your washing your hands to rinse away the stigma of having been too persistent in the use of (the word and concept) sympathy. Hang in with that word! Never, ever give it up! I love bull dogs, not really bully dogs, I'm scared of dogs, but people who hang on to what gives them meaning in the face of every kind of opposition- ---especially when their intention is honorable, as your intention is. This also is being skillful with shame, in my view.

Rich, I've been wondering for several weeks just how you are doing with your colleagues who want to shame you for appearing to be on the side of the abuser? I like to hear people's out-in-the-world experience.

Great, great dialogue and input from everyone. Hope it's ok to find the fun, because it's here. Feel it!?

Best to all, Chauncey

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