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• Introducing Shame Language to Clients by Brett Schur - Havertown, PA - bschur@msn.com, 3/12/96
  
  

It is also necessary to remember that of the entire complement of stimulus-affect-response sequences (SAR Triads) triggered in the normal course of a day from infancy through senescence, only a tiny fraction ever achieves the dignity of an affect label. So using "feeling bad" or Herman is even more important early than stressing the label of shame, simply because there is little connection between most of the great mass of SAR Triads involving shame affect and the shame family of emotions that we know so well in social life. This is where Helen Block Lewis went wrong when she talked about moments that we would define as responses from the compass of shame, but that had occurred in the absence of anything that felt like embarrassment or such. She called this "bypassed shame," which it certainly isn't, and had no idea about what we know to be the stimulus-affect-response sequence.

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