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• Hello by Mary B., 4/29/96
  
  

Glad to have you join the mix. Related to your interest in domestic violence is a chapter by Melvin Lansky in my 1987 book "The Many Faces of Shame"; I've written a lot about the affective underpinnings of interpersonal violence in my 1992 book "Shame and Pride: Affect, Sex, and the Birth of the Self," particularly in the section on The Compass of Shame. I view the overwhelming majority of such situations as subsets of the *attack self* and *attack other* scripts for shame as depicted there. Also, in the chapters on Overload and Mechanisms of Increase, I've discussed the how and why of interpersonal explosion. If you've read those references and have another realm of question, all of us on this "page" will be interested in your ideas.

Basically, I guess my position is that it doesn't do much good to discuss behavior of any sort without some reference to the affect that either accompanies it or brings it about.

• shame and interpersonal violence by Mary B., 5/3/96