as many aspects as possible need to be accepted in a situation for a human to feel welcomed and needed. embarasment might be a persons responce to any mental "diagnoise" projected or "thought" from another person present in the moment.the moment someone exposes an aspect of themselves, vurnarable or "ugly" that might make mistakes or dumb responses, if they are not familar with the nature of its living quality,they might look to the external environment for evaluation or affirmation and judge:internal shame, or accept this in a loving connection,then all things grow.