Re:changing deeply felt beliefs and thanks to both of you s

The varied replies are helpful to my learning/healing journey which I'm beginning to find most intriguing! (how wonderful I can now say that) I am, by the way, working through the symptoms of PISD. Being able to visit this forum and to post questions helps me work through and further explore new awarenesses. It helps me to formulate my connections into words; to futher think through/reflect on what I am experiencing; to prepare for my next step and so on. It is a way to learn as I am ready.

The idea of targeting the relationship between client/parent is not one I feel comfortable with (scarey). Was that a misprint "to target, using EMDR, the relationship between clients' parents." How would that work? Would the client bring up a memory of the parents interacting? I do have a number of memories, traumatic in nature re domestic violence, but I only see/think of and don't feel anything. Would accessing those memories first require being able to access the feelings associated with them and, then, would that link back in some way to an earlier time. (both my parents died 5 & 6 years ago)

The idea/thought "I don't deserve to live" seems to carry a lot more - like I'm somehow responsible for allowing myself to be born when I really shouldn't have been. Upon reflecting on both of your replies I realize that during my worst year of experiencing school bullying I began to think of suicide. I've never attempted suicide but the thought is one I've carried with me and it has surfaced many times over the years. So, if I were to start with the feelings around the bullying and when I'm first aware of wanting to die, then, would that link back to when I formed the belief that I wasn't supposed to exist and somehow shouldn't have allowed myself to be born.

Sorry for the long post, however, I'm finding this to be quite interesting. I'm eager for my next few therapy sessions and carrying this further along! I really want to change/challenge the deeply held belief that "I don't deserve to live" and all the positive thinking and successes in the world just do not seem to get at the root. I see EMDR as a tool I might use to do just that, get at the root.

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Re:changing deeply felt beliefs and thanks to both of you s, by Sandra Paulsen Inobe, PhD, 11/21/00 Oops! Re:changing deeply felt beliefs , by , 11/22/00

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