Re:emdr

Words are devious little creatures. On the face of it, I'd agree that being a "good, compliant patient" is the same as -- or involved in -- trust.

However, having been there myself... in my case, attempting to do resource oriented EMDR vs standard... being a "good, compliant patient" was a repeat of trying to be a good child. I kept trying to do what my therapist wanted, and it kept not working, and I kept trying, because I trusted her --- or, rather, thought it was my "job" as a client to trust her, and follow her lead. I was always honest, and she did set the pace. But in the process, there was a lot of reenactment, NOT healing.

I'd examine your beliefs about trust, compliance and the therapeutic model. Not saying you are wrong, just saying "look at it". Because part of being in therapy is overcoming our tendencies to poorly attach or not trust, we can go to the other extreme... trusting too much or too broadly -- and when we do that, it is usually more subtle and damaging. I, for instance, did a lot better at expressing rage at my therapist than at expressing my dependence and trust... that didn't work out very well, therapeutically speaking -- she couldn't read my mind.

Guess I am just saying relationships and words... like trust and compliance... are incredibly complex. So is EMDR. Be careful what combustibles ya mix together.

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