Re:Narcicism

Although I am not a grad student, I do have some personal experience dealing with this type of personality. My ex-husband, to be blunt, is very into himself. He made severral "attempts" to seek professional help, but "they" never knew what they were doing. The marriage did not last long, and at one point I did atend one of his counseling sessions to attempt verification of my expectations of him, it is a very losg story of ilness and disability. Never the less, at the completion of the session I was in tears from constant fingerpointing and blame placed on me for everything under the sun. The therapist told me he felt sory for me and gave me a great deal of credit for attempting to work with this man.

Since that time I have discovered there are many ex-husbands out there with what seems to be this same disorder. I was the fourth wife of my ex and along with his blame of others he also lied habitually. Everything and anything, he was and still is very suspicious of others, thinking everyone is out to get him. In addition to that his mother remarked to me that he is just like his father, who was an alcoholic. My ex drank heavily until he was in his mid-forties, and although he did not drink any longer you would think he did. There were many behaviors that were not noticable at first glance. Controlling factors that if it was not done his way it was not "fair". In many ways I guess you could say he was very childish.

Needless to say he and I had a son together during the short time we were together, and I am deeply concerned that he could have inherited many of his father's traits. Since he is only eight years old now it is difficult to see any long-term results. I can say that when he comes home rom a weekend visit with his fathers, he is more disrespectful and manipulative. This could be a result of the divorce but it does concern me and I have engage him in counseling as a result.

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Re:Narcicism, by Amy, 02/22/04

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