Need referral

I am a family practitioner with a great interest in psychiatry, something I think all FPs should have. I find this theory very powerful and have been reading with you a little over a year. As I understand these concepts more and more it is so impressive how much suffering is around all of us. I am in Chicago and have a SO that is extremely resistant, well steeped in shame , a florid Borderline. In general any very concert ideas on how one breaks through this shame? There are good suggestion already but any more? Finally does anyone know any psychiatrist(s) in Chicago or western suburbs that you are absolutely sure would not be hood winked by a borderline and practices from an “affect” view point. She tends to go in and seduce everyone as far as I can tell. Of curse any suggestion from me at this point is that I am “controling” her. So againg getting around that. Maybe going together, although I doubt if she would do that?

• Referral by Don Nathanson, 1/11/98