Grief and EMDR - is it ever too soon?

My husband died 7 weeks, 6 hours and 47 minutes ago (but who's counting?). Everything I've read and heard from "bereavement" and "grief" counselors is that you must "let yourself feel the pain. Allow yourself to grieve." They are telling me I'm doing "fine" and that it "just takes time. If you do not let yourself feel the pain, it will just take longer."

Well, I'm not really happy with that answer and I don't feel "fine." I was sent on a business trip last week and had a panic attack in an airport. I turned around and came home. In my book that's not "fine" (nor was my boss too pleased).

I'm very left-brained and of the school of "he's dead, get over it." Unfortunately, that school is out of session.

My question: should I try EMDR to move past this point in my life? My concern is the conflict between the belief that I should "allow myself to grieve" and the term "desensitization" or even the updated "reprocessing therapy." I certainly don't want to prolong this. I'd like to move through it more quickly. Would EMDR accelerate the recovery process at this point? Or am I "fine" and it "just takes time."

Thank you for YOUR time.

Replies:

Re:Grief and EMDR - is it ever too soon?, by Shapiro, 5/11/99 Re:Grief and EMDR - is it ever too soon?, by Alexey Terekhov, 11/28/99 Re:Grief and EMDR - is it ever too soon?, by Fairchild, 4/2/00

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