Gestalt Therapy - Quotable Quotes

I thought an interesting thread would be for people to offer favourite or controversial quotes from Gestalt therapy writers to stimulate discussion or present a clear figure of the essence of Gestalt therapy.

I'll start with one that over 20 years old, from Walter Kempler's book "Principles of Gestalt Family Therapy" (page 14)

"Fritz was a specialist. His genius rested in his ability to maintain his seperateness, and revealed itself in the skillfulness with which he helped others to gain their needed seperateness. But when it came to union - the other side of the spinning coin of life- he either oppossed it or was helpless. Consequently he attracted mostly those who struggled for seperateness and who needed comfort in their stuck seperateness. As a result, the Gestalt movement is temporarily out of balance with too much emphasis on "I am I" and not nearly enough appreciation for the equally necessary and difficult struggle for union. Although the best preparation fo union is the sucessful separation, it is not enough for the therapist to stop his work at that point. Neither seperateness nor union is the goal of the therapeutic process, but rather the exhortation of the endless and often painful undulation between them."

• Spontaneous Dominances by J. Richard White, 4/5/97