EMDR FORUM ARCHIVE, 2000
Re:body sensations and emdr
only me · 09/29/03 at 9:24 ET
Dr. Paulsen-Inobe: I just wanted to say that I'm glad you decided to intervene here. I'm a patient who's currently working on an extensive trauma history, much of it in regard to former therapists and things they did that they ought not to have done. I've a rage toward therapy and therapists in general and a fear of them that I think are unsurpassed by those of few other people. Nonetheless, I've been very uncomfortable with some of what's been going on here. It just seemed way too easy for a patient to take shots at someone in a public forum when the patient had made clear that the therapist had recognized him/herself in the patient's descriptions online and had contacted the patient about his/her postings. To continue the bashing when the patient knows the therapist is probably following the posts and can't reply to any accusations because of confidentiality issues seemed unfair even to me (and, as I say, I hold a grudge toward therapists in general and am usually only too happy to see patients take pot shots at them). This post isn't on EMDR, I know, but I've been uneasy reading this forum of late because of these sorts of posts, and this message has to do with goings-on in this forum, if not EMDR itself. Please delete after you've read, if you like. I don't feel comfortable writing you privately, but I did want to let you know that as a reader I'm glad you stepped in here. ******* To the person who was posting about the therapist, I wanted to say a couple of things. I think I have some sense of how angry you feel at someone you feel made your situation worse rather than better (I've a long history of that myself -- I could write a book that would need a lot of editing down to fit a publisher's word count requirements). But I think this anger is something it might be more useful to work out with the therapists you're currently feeling comfortable working with and then perhaps addressing these issues at some later point face-to-face with the person you're angry at (might not be doable, but we all do change over time, and who knows how this other person may evolve over time). You've actually given me a lot to think about in regard to my own past bad experiences with therapists and my current fears that I'll be betrayed again, as well as how I've handled these sorts of problems in the past and how I might handle them better now and in the future. I think therapists carry the larger part of the responsibility to make sure things stay on track in therapy, but I also think that patients need to recognize their own role in how things go awry, even if they were not strong enough or did not have enough insight at the time to keep these negative things from happening (it is, after all, why we're in therapy!). I may be way off base here, but I did want to say I think this stuff needs to be addressed, but I've not been comfortable with your working this stuff out so publicly when the accused can't ethically respond (no matter how justified your accusations may or may not be).
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