Re:Transference and the Whole Therapy Relationship!!!

Hello,

As you can see there are many different answers to your question, which is a reflection of many different therapists with different view points.

I would simply recognize that different people have different relationships to touch. This includes therapists. This relationship to touch is often even culturally based.

It sounds to me that touch means a lot to you. I can certainly relate to that. If you are still with that therapist, and would like to continue to work with that person I would take a conversation about the boundaries as you experience them now. Express that you feel the current boundaries are hurtful, and that they need to be reevaluated. It is important to do this with the perspective that the therapist have some boundaries which they will not overstep, and again different therapists diffeent such boundaries, and take this conversation with respect to both your boundaries and the therapists boundaries. It sounds to me that you experience the no touch situation as accutely painful, and that is in effect overstepping your boundaries, revictimizing you instead of helping you to overcome.

Doing this hopefully can foster an atmosphere where a mutually good agreement can be reached.

Good luck
Kind regards
The Friendly Puter Tech

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