We don't have a specific definition for trauma or abuse. Although I think all or many of your concepts would be included within our ideas. We view all issues as case specific to an individual- his or her personal psychology. This would includes drives and the impact of his or her environment.
By that I mean what is traumatic for one may not be for another. That aside, in general events are traumatic when they bring forth strong affect and threaten ones sense of self, survival, shame, humiliation, destruction, loss of a relationship etc. . When one experiences trauma one develops theories about how and why the trauma occurred and develops strategies (pathogenic beliefs) about how to avoid further traumatization.
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